10 Reasons' Why.....

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________.Facebook is Evil._________

1)    It promotes unhealthy boastfulness – nobody cares if you get a new car or have just upgraded your cable to a superior package. Advertently, nobody cares also if your child/significant other/family member is really sick – you should not be on Facebook at this time, you should be by there side if you really care.

2)    It isn’t monitorable – There are paedophiles’ in this world who do find it easier to approach children via Facebook – and they will try and do it. They don’t have to use their own pictures or say who they are and there is not one person going to question the credibility of their profile until it is too late.


3)    It has spawned a very nasty trend called cyber-bullying. This is now recognised as a genuine problem amongst schools where children AND TEACHERS are being victimized and bullied via Facebook. There does not seem to be a solution to this problem as removal of the abusive messages from your own wall still leaves them on your friends and families.

4)    The bullying and threatening behaviour do not always stay on Facebook – it is not an unfair comment at all to point out that most violent behaviour (domestic and schoolyard) has been planned for OR has been the direct result of something written on Facebook.


5)    People can blatantly abuse their freedom of speech to praise terrorist attacks or murders on Facebook. Although a few cases have been brought into question in the past few years, all new cases remain unresolved due to sheer-number.

6)    Because of the above, it can be a great cause of emotional distress. If your child has been killed in Iraq, you do not want Islamic Extremist using their right to free speech to express how pleased they are about it.


7)    Thieves now read your Facebook pages to determine if you are at home or out before they rob your house.

8)    The Government monitors its pages to check to see if people claiming benefits are telling the truth about their current employment/disability status. This had led to a lot of totally innocent people losing the benefits they are entitled to (thus braded a benefit cheat) because they said one thing to arouse the suspicion of the welfare office.


9)    Places of work also use Facebook for reasons to fire unsuspecting employees. This had led to some totally innocent people being removed from work because of a post that could possibly relate to employer being posted on facebook.

10)    THE BIGGEST REASON I THINK FACEBOOK IS EVIL IS:

It encourages you to lie. Whilst not all lies are bad; some lies just have to be told out of necessity and some things you should just keep to yourself.
There are also things you should not know (or want to know) about your family/friends. Some things that can question your entire belief system about them, and all because they post them on Facebook.

If, like me, you have read Dante’s Inferno, you will know of the following saying:

“The tenth circle of Hell is reserved for those who lie to themselves”

Facebook encourages you to do this. Whether it be pretending that everything is going to be alright, to a pandering post on somebody else’s wall telling them it will be – even when you know it won’t be alright.
Even when you know that you are not alright.

Facebook encourages you to lie... to yourself more than anybody else.

The Curse of Being (anti-)Social

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Being a people reader (I dont just say that for the fun of it, ask anyone who knows me and they'll tell you, I can spookily read a lot out of a first impression) is sometimes more a curse than a blessing.

Sure, it has saved me from some of the most barmy and weirdest relationships (one guy was into his mother - in a sex way) that have approached me, but it is at times when family...

Yeah, you know where this is going! This is why I think Facebook is remarkably evil -  (Thats tomorrows blog-post!) there are just some things family members should not share. Some things they should not know about each other. Some aspect of their lives should just be kept to themselves... being a people reader, however, I tend to look a little deeper into everything.

My sister (the one from previous posts) said something... amazingly awful about me, in front of everybody - but in a funny way, so therefore, it isnt an insult and I shouldnt over-react because she ment it - but in a funny way.

I know right?

Im in a bad place right now. I dont really want to blog about my emo-side too much because it just fuels my saddness rather than quells it. But im in a bad place emotionally and its making me both angry and timid.

If I were my old self, she wouldnt have standed a chance after saying that - I would have been down her throat (verbally) so fast that she would gag with horror on the torrent of truth I would have unleashed.

Truth is, where I am now, I just went into another room and tried to stop myself from crying. I didnt want to give her the satisfaction.

I cant stop reading between the lines about it. Just the way she said it; the way she looked at me when she said it - so pointedly and with a smirk-- this is when being a people reader is a curse. You cant stop reading them. long after they're gone. Long after the damage has been done.

Deserves to be shown

For the past few days I have been taunting myself for not actually being very "Artsie".
I had been craving to do some blending and shading skin-tones (I know, im weird!) but when push came to shove, I couldnt pick a pose I liked - so I decided to try a random portrait of my own:

We're talking no hard likes to guide me here, just brush-strokes and blending goodness. Well, I dont know what came over me because 2 hours later I looked at the time and realised it was 2am in the morning - I got into it, almost like I was in some kind of trance!

It is funny that I say that because, rule number of of shading and detailing is the most important: DONT SHADE AFTER DETAILING - but the eye... I really got into that eye, it was like... a trance! Really! I just had to finish that eye!

Dont ask me how I made it look so good. I dont know Dont ask me why I made it that colour. It just felt like I had to.

Suffice to say, when I was done I did try to shade around it. Stupid of me, I know and I was lucky I stoped myself when I did because I ran out of backsteps. It is a shame because I was on such a roll!

I know it is beyond my skill right now to fix and finish it - but it deserves to be shown. The eye is worthy of it alone!

Fell free to finish it yourselfs - just show me when you're done. Im intrigued at what she wanted to be...

Life, The Internet & Family

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In my 26 years of living, I always assumed that internet greifers' would never get the better of me. Considering the hell I went through during puberty and the bullying that tormented me in school - I just always figured there was nothing anybody could say or do to me on the internet that would affect me in a negative way.

What I didnt count on, however, is that one of these very greifers' that seem to adorn every corner of the internet would be a member of my very own family.

After three whole years of avoiding the facebook fad, I gave in - and all because the rest of my family were raving about who said what. I felt left out and made my own page which I didn’t really pay much attention to.
It was fun at first, I got in a poking competition with my sister (If you've never been on facebook, that will sound so wrong) and triumphed my way to the top of the bejewelled leader boards. And then things started to creep in:
Comments on this and that the rest of the family thought. Some of them eyebrow-raising to say the least but nothing major or overly offensive. Until recently.

Having commented on a post of my elder sister on her wall, she abruptly replied "Well you should try and get a proper job and stop sponging off other people" - this being a reference to the fact I am finding it hard to find a job at the minute and currently taking care of my elderly parents.

She seems to be under the assumption that I live out of their pocket's - which is not the case at all - but she refuses to listen to reason.
I put the comment behind me; one-blip out of a life-time of sibling rivalry I suppose. But no - now all I get if I say ANYTHING on my facebook is a nasty comment from her saying exactly (spelling included:

"y dnt u try and get a proper job instead of F&#KIN spongin off other people??"

And it is nasty - do I like my inability to make money? Of course not. Do I want to be 26 years old and look after my parents? Do I fuck! But I have found myself to be quite stuck in this position I am in.

So the other day, when she happened to stop by with her children, I had her out about it. I asked her "Why do you say this? You know what I do and why I do it so why?"

She replied "Oh get a grip, it’s only the internet."

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You all probably just laughed at that - because, in a sense, it is partly true, but as I opened this post talking about the fact I assumed a greifer would NEVER be able to say anything that affects me in a negative way; I never once imagined that my (MOST EDUCATED AND MATURE) sister would be the greifer.

I’m hurt. Incredibly and horribly so. And not just because she thinks that stuff of me, but because she thinks that just because she said it on the internet, I shouldn’t get so upset about it.

I tell you, all my readers, facebook has a lot to answer for when it comes to the family dynamic. And I ask; could you live your life comfortably knowing what is going on in the rest of your families’ heads?

I deleted my facebook account. That is my answer.